A sense of security in one’s needs, while comforting, can essentially never be guaranteed; and can hence be a dangerous illusion. That said, not having the illusion of security makes it difficult for people to not feel insecure, leading to worry, leading to unproductive thoughts, and/or leading to behavior that is not fruitful.
As living creatures we are by necessity driven by our insecurities. If we do not have enough food we are insecure in our dietary needs and seek food. If we do not have a good set of teeth we are insecure about our chompers, and seek a dentist, hopefully. If we don’t have nice clothes we might be insecure about our appearance (I find this last one to rarely be true with four-legged creatures – dogs seem to be particularly secure without any clothes for example, probably because of that sexy fur).
It is possible to feel secure, even while acknowledging that in reality security is an illusion. First, in my experience, one must acknowledge that they do in fact have insecurities. This is a trying experience because making that first admission to oneself can have a snowball effect that may lead to what good ole Al Franken would call “stinkin’ thinkin’ rearin’ its ugly head.” I find stinkin’ thinkin’ to be very annoying so I recommend that this be thought of as a gradual process of becoming more secure by acknowledging insecurity where it exists when it is found as it is found.
In other words, nobody is really helped by sitting down and making a list of all the things they feel they lack. That’s just kind of depressing. All of us benefit from asking ourselves why we are really doing what we are doing. For example, why do I blog? I suffer some insecurity about the state of affairs with the public in general. I want people to feel more secure. Why? We’re all somewhat more insecure because of all the insecure people running around in the world and the havoc they are constantly unwittingly wreaking against themselves and others as a result.
We need not play on each others interests merely to survive dear reader. Every drop of insecurity that falls into the pond of humanity ripples outwards like everything else. I hope this drop will ripple out appropriately. We just have to trust our best judgement regarding each situation we encounter. It sounds easy but it isn’t. It is so easy to just follow orders.
That said, obviously, no one is an island; we can benefit from experience and good counsel. We have the capacity to hold each other up or down. We had best start holding each other up more and sooner rather than later because there are a lot of insecure people in the world.
Once one knows their insecurities, they know what is driving them. That’s when one can take the wheel away from their insecurities and start driving themselves instead of being driven by their insecurities.